"Sex With Emily" host Emily Morse answers your questions about how to masturbate, and which vibrators will help you get off.
Okay, this is a little embarrassing, but I canít masturbate. There is no amount of touching myself that will turn me on. I have no problems with a partner stimulating me but when it comes to ďspecial alone timeĒ Iím SOL (shit out of luck). Now Iím in a long-distance relationship and Iím dying without the sex. I want to try a vibrator but I donít know what kind of stimulation I like because I canít masturbate. I donít even know if a vibrator will help. What advice do you have for this situation?
Youíve got nothing to be embarrassed about. Many women have this same challenge with masturbation but donít talk about it.†If you arenít sure how you orgasm the best place to start is with clitoral stimulation.†The clitoris contains about 8,000 nerve endings so thereís a good chance some of these nerves will kick in for you. †Up to 75% of women who have orgasms require clitoral stimulation. Some women find that circular motions with your fingers work well when touching your clitoris, others like more indirect stimulation. Itís important to spend time exploring your body before deciding that masturbation doesnít work for you.
For vibrators, you can start with something small and simple like the Intense First Time Vibrator or if you really want to bring it home (the orgasm, not the boyfriend) get a Mini Miracle Massager. This is a powerful device that generates pleasure that many women didnít know was humanly possible.
If youíd like to feel turned on before you masturbate try getting yourself in the mood with a warm bath or try Skype Sex with your partner. You can both start touching in front of each other and see where that takes you. †You can even show off your new toy . Once the two of you are finally reunited, you might just find you enjoy sex even more. Youíll be so much more educated on what makes your body feel good which is really what itís all about: understanding your own body so you can experience pleasure and eventually relay this information to your partner.
I wish you luck and endless self-pleasure!